My brother was given the legal authority by my parents to make decisions about their healthcare. That was before my mother was saved. After she was born again my mother’s and my attempt to overrule his decisions made on her behalf were unsuccessful. In March of 2007, when my mother was in the hospital dying, the question of a feeding tube and a DNR order (do not resuscitate) came up. Feeding even through a tube is a humane act, not an extraordinary measure to unnaturally extend life. My mother was fed by tube, and she lived another three weeks, that was all. Those were three more weeks that we had to pray for and minister to her. We believed a feeding tube was in order, but we were unsuccessful in preventing the DNR. I have to tell you that my mother had the sweetest Christian woman caring for her in the hospital during those last days of her life. That was a great comfort to me. The Lord sees all and is so faithful.
As we were about the leave the hospital one day another patient who was being discharged began speaking with us. He told us that he had six heart attacks and was resuscitated all six times. Interesting isn’t it, that this total stranger who knew nothing about us started telling us his very interesting story. My husband listened and spoke with him, and shared some Scripture and Bible tracts with the man. What if someone had put a DNR order on that man’s chart after his fifth or sixth heart attack? His opportunity for salvation would have been forever gone! Hell is a real place, and Jesus was the one who taught us about hell.
These issues came up again with my father was dying. My father was denied a feeding tube and IV sustenance. He was put on IV fluids and was alert and doing well, but then that was removed also.When someone’s eternal destiny may not be settled, why cut their time short by denying them something as basic as food and fluids. A few years earlier my Dad was about to be put on hospice/palliative care. We prayed and he lived a few more years. It’s sad, and tragic, when people leave God out of the equation.
Having said all that I do understand that each situation is different, and the need to prayerfully make decisions, depending on God’s Word for wisdom, in these very difficult circumstances.