Although my father had dementia we continued to minister to him during the closing days and hours of his life.   You can imagine how encouraged I was to read the following article from the Spring 2010 “Bits of SonShine” newsletter.  The newsletter arrived shortly after my father’s death last March.


by Robert Berray, Fairport, New York

Many times important aspects of ministry to the disabled and elderly are not fully understood.  Years ago Judy and I had one of those high impact experiences where every detail still stands out.  We were doing a worship service at Kirkhaven Nursing Home in 1999 with about 25 Residents in attendance.  Just before we started, a woman wheeled in a man on a gurney; we could see he was unresponsive.  Suddenly, I recognized his wife; then realized the man was an old friend I had lost track of long ago.  We immediately went over to them.  She told us he was in the last stages of advanced dementia and not expected to live long.  As we were talking, he suddenly sat up; his face lit up with a big smile and eyes opened wide.  Then he sank back down, his last effort of strength.  He wife became, literally, delirious with joy.  She said he had not responded to anyone for months.  It must have been the sound of a familiar voice from the past that awakened something in him.  Our friend passed away 5 days later.  It was a wonderful blessing for him – for us – and a double blessing for his wife who brought him to his last worship service.

It is important to address this issue for the following reasons; There is a tendency not to minister to people experiencing dementia because a commonly held belief is that “They are not getting it, why bother, it’s a waste of time”.  This is a shallow opinion, because the Word of God may very well be reaching their hearts, their souls – apart from their cognitive understanding.  Also, in a group setting, even if most do not seem receptive, there may be ONE that may be receiving the message (and probably more than one).  We must trust the Lord that His purposes are being accomplished.  We are called to go and share the Word in leading a service and/or visitation fellowship.  They will receive it as the Lord wills.  It is for us, simply, to hear His Call – His Voice, and go to those Nursing Home Residents, families and staff, in faith!”

And it’s not just dementia patients that can benefit from ministry.  I remember a pastor telling about a man he visited regularly.  Although the man was in a coma, the pastor spoke to him as if he could hear.  The man eventually “woke up” and told the pastor that he heard every word spoken to him during those visits.


Here’s something else I came across while going through some of the “stuff” that I saved over the years.  This is from 2006 and was written in memory of Mrs. Brown, a nursing home resident that we came to know and love.  She was a Christian who came to many of our meetings.


Do not cry for me.

I lived my live as I believed,

True, simple and to the point.

I smiled when I was pleased.

I cried when I was sad


stood when they told me to sit down.

Do not cry for me.

I want you to live because I believed in living.

Love unconditionally, rejoice in what is real


always remember to believe in what you live.

(Respectfully submitted by the family)

I remember that at Mrs. Brown’s going home service the preacher told the people that whatever their relationship was with the deceased person, that’s what it would be forever. Whatever was said was said, and whatever was unsaid would forever remain unsaid. He poignantly went on to say “what is written, is written.” Truly memorable words.

Poem I wrote about Mrs. Brown  … GRAVEYARD PASTOR


Many in the “Protestant” church do not understand that Roman Catholic teaching contradicts the teachings of Jesus and the teachings of the Bible.  In fact Rome’s gospel is no gospel at all because it is “another gospel.”

Recently I spoke with someone who grew up in the “Protestant” church yet in her old age circumstances have brought her to a place where she is being taught the rosary.  Another woman I know is watching many hours of TBN which actually tells it’s audience that they aren’t protesting anything anymore and prove it by having priests on their programs.  The saints need to learn what Rome teaches, and how Rome’s teachings contradict the words of Jesus.  But the “Pastors” in many instances block that information from getting to those in the pew.  Understanding what the gospel is, and what the gospel is not, is Christianity 101. I warned the two ladies referred to above because I love them.  Truly I do.  I spoke gently, in a soft voice, and my words were few.  Even so, I do not know if what I said was received. I know the effectiveness of my words may be diminished because the majority of Christendom, in my neck of the woods anyway, call Roman Catholics brethren. When there’s a lone voice saying the opposite one can become suspect and as a result truth falls to the ground.


Another gospel that isn’t true,

So many deceived, could that be you?

A counterfeit Jesus, religious but lost,

Your very soul will be the cost.


It does not have to be this way,

Soften your heart, come what may.

Embrace the truth and pay the price,

Unmask the false that looks so nice.


Disguised as an angel of light,

The devil teaches things not right.

How can this be, you want to ask,

God’s Word he changed, the truth he masks.


The devil lies, no truth he tells,

Deception sends many to hell.

Again you ask, how can this be,

When you repent, then you will see.


Spirit, flesh, cannot coincide,

Follow Jesus and be His bride.

Obey His Word, not words of man,

Love speaks truth, as only love can.

by Cathy White 2010

Matthew 23:13 But woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! for ye shut up the kingdom of heaven against men: for ye neither go in yourselves, neither suffer ye them that are entering to go in.

2 Corinthians 11

1 Would to God ye could bear with me a little in my folly: and indeed bear with me.

2 For I am jealous over you with godly jealousy: for I have espoused you to one husband, that I may present you as a chaste virgin to Christ.

3 But I fear, lest by any means, as the serpent beguiled Eve through his subtilty, so your minds should be corrupted from the simplicity that is in Christ.

4 For if he that cometh preacheth another Jesus, whom we have not preached, or if ye receive another spirit, which ye have not received, or another gospel, which ye have not accepted, ye might well bear with him.

13 For such are false apostles, deceitful workers, transforming themselves into the apostles of Christ.

14 And no marvel; for Satan himself is transformed into an angel of light.

15 Therefore it is no great thing if his ministers also be transformed as the ministers of righteousness; whose end shall be according to their works.

Galatians 1:8 But though we, or an angel from heaven, preach any other gospel unto you than that which we have preached unto you, let him be accursed.

Galatians 1:9 As we said before, so say I now again, If any man preach any other gospel unto you than that ye have received, let him be accursed.

See also  … SALVATION

TIME – A Poem

Time, it slowly slips away,

Time, each moment and each day,

Time, the tick tock of the clock,

Time, night cometh, death will knock.


Time, much shorter than was thought,

Time, what has our labor wrought,

Time, the tick tock of the clock,

Time, night cometh, death will knock.


Time, as vapor disappears,

Time, so many wasted years,

Time, the tick tock of the clock,

Time, night cometh, death will knock.


Time, we must be born again!

Time, we must be born again!

Time, the tick tock of the clock,

Time, night cometh, death will knock.

by Cathy White 2010

John 3

1 There was a man of the Pharisees, named Nicodemus, a ruler of the Jews:

2 The same came to Jesus by night, and said unto him, Rabbi, we know that thou art a teacher come from God: for no man can do these miracles that thou doest, except God be with him.

3 Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.

4 Nicodemus saith unto him, How can a man be born when he is old? can he enter the second time into his mother’s womb, and be born?

5 Jesus answered, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born of water and of the Spirit, he cannot enter into the kingdom of God.

6 That which is born of the flesh is flesh; and that which is born of the Spirit is spirit.

7 Marvel not that I said unto thee, Ye must be born again.

8 The wind bloweth where it listeth, and thou hearest the sound thereof, but canst not tell whence it cometh, and whither it goeth: so is every one that is born of the Spirit.

9 Nicodemus answered and said unto him, How can these things be?

10 Jesus answered and said unto him, Art thou a master of Israel, and knowest not these things?

11 Verily, verily, I say unto thee, We speak that we do know, and testify that we have seen; and ye receive not our witness.

12 If I have told you earthly things, and ye believe not, how shall ye believe, if I tell you of heavenly things?

13 And no man hath ascended up to heaven, but he that came down from heaven, even the Son of man which is in heaven.

14 And as Moses lifted up the serpent in the wilderness, even so must the Son of man be lifted up:

15 That whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have eternal life.

16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.

17 For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved.

18 He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God.

19 And this is the condemnation, that light is come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil.

20 For every one that doeth evil hateth the light, neither cometh to the light, lest his deeds should be reproved.

21 But he that doeth truth cometh to the light, that his deeds may be made manifest, that they are wrought in God.

HOPE – A Poem

Will you let hope slip away,

Will you hearken while it’s day?

Oh what darkness, oh what sorrow,

To live lost all your tomorrows.


This is all I want to say,

Will you let hope slip away,

And leave this world in your lost state,

Forever barred from heaven’s gate?


Don’t you hear the Saviour calling,

Won’t you heed His Word of warning?

Will you let hope just slip away,

And be unsaved your dying day?


Passing through the door of death,

Having taken your last breath,

Will you be ready for the day,

Will you let hope just slip away?

by Cathy White – 2010

2 Corinthians 5:20 Now then we are ambassadors for Christ, as though God did beseech you by us: we pray you in Christ’s stead, be ye reconciled to God.

Hebrews 2:1 Therefore we ought to give the more earnest heed to the things which we have heard, lest at any time we should let them slip.

Colossians 1:5 For the hope which is laid up for you in heaven, whereof ye heard before in the word of the truth of the gospel;